New Year’s Resolutions are really starting to get a bad rap. They were those things we would set for ourselves to do to make us newer, better people. Most of the time they focused around our health, fitness and well being.
We choose those resolutions with a pass/fail mentality. eg. I will give up Chocolate for the year. I will go to the gym 5 days a week. I will give up alcohol (when most people start the year already hungover). Most of the time they were not realistic to achieve, didn’t go into how you were going to maintain this commitment and didn’t consider whether it suited your lifestyle.
If you missed a day at the gym, you have failed! What does that do for your mindset and commitment? You throw in the towel and go back to your old ways. The ways that suited your busy lifestyle.
For the last couple of years I have changed the way I create my focus for the New Year. I started creating 3 words that would help to guide the choices I made in the New Year. For 2016, I chose ‘Structure’, ‘Grow’, ‘Nurture’. It helped me create structure in my work and personal life to fit in time for the gym. Grow related to the business but also to my own personal growth in learning. Nurture was about caring for myself and creating a nurtured environment for my clients.
In 2017, I chose ‘Fearless’, ‘Honest’, ‘Balance’. They related to taking on challenges and fearing them less (not living without fear), It was about being honest with myself about what I could handle and the choices I was making and balance was about balancing my time better between work and home.
I enjoyed 2 great years that followed these principles. I didn’t feel that I had failed if I didn’t balance my time perfectly or if I missed a day at the gym. It was a much better approach for my mindset and I looked back at the end of the years to see what was achieved without constantly thinking about the words. It was working in the subconscious mind.